Have you ever had someone said, I Love you and gave it a thought, Is he/she for real? I mean seriously? Come on, it’s such a cliché. I don't know what this is with me; keep saying the word 'Cliché’ numerous times past few weeks but one thing for sure. I agree that 'I love you’ is such a cliché. I don't know the stats but I'm pretty sure half of the people who said that doesn't mean it or at least not quite sure what love really is.

Of course I'm not talking about love in general. I'm talking about the typical perception of us that is to associate love as an intense feeling of affection and an emotion towards another person with sexual desire. In most cases, towards the opposite gender. So, this does not include love towards family or other objects around you.

If you ask me what love is, I say it’s a foundation. Just like constructing a building, you build a foundation (love), and then you build the pillar (trust). Then you don't know where to go after that. You look at the building plan (understand). You keep building higher (love grows). Accidents may occur in a construction site so be prepared. Sometimes one of the pillar cracks (lose trust) and it takes twice as long to repair a pillar than to build a new one. Unfortunately, you can't build a new one because if you remove a pillar, the building will collapse (Getting a new love). As you build, you check for any flaws and fix them (Change for each other). When you've done building, you renovate/decorate the build (marriage).

Now you know why the Malays call marriage 'Rumah tangga’ (Stair house?)? Do note that although it’s not official, sex is marriage and marriage is sex. That’s the first thing people expect you to do right after you're officially married. And the meaning of life is to gain knowledge, create life and impart your knowledge to the life you created. That’s it. I can go on and on about how you need 2 opposite sex to create life and its relations to chemistry and physics on its negative and positive effect but I want to stay to the topic.

On another note, people (mostly girls) always talk about how guys tend to be unfaithful to the partner. Well, unlike most guys who tried to defend that by saying they know a number of girls who did the same, I say the argument is not going to end until the next evolutionary changes. Tell you something. For millions of years humans have been living as a caveman and base on scientific studies, they don't stick to one partner. Compare millions of years of unfaithfulness and only a few centuries of civilization with an idea that a couple should be faithful to one another. And guess what? There is no way to stop this until the next evolutionary changes, which is the next little million years. Both males and females are equally unfaithful to each other. The reason why there seems to be more number of males doing that is because, males don't go around telling their friends about it while females, more emotionally driven, tell all their friends about it. This is the reason why there seems to be more men cheating on their girl but the fact is, both are numbered the same. So girls, stop being bias by amplifying guy’s mistakes while you ignored yours and your girlfriends.
With the unfaithful and evolutionary topic in hand, here goes some religious aspect. A Muslim is allowed to marry more than 1 wife. My friend said, That is not a reason, Eddy. I said, No, I didn't say it’s a reason. It’s a solution. A person with the right mind knows that it’s impossible to make evolutionary changes in a blink of an eye. Imagine millions of years in unfaithfulness and suddenly, Hey!! You have to be faithful to your partner!! I bet 'that someone’ will say, Woah!! Hold your horses. We have to take things a step at a time. Why don't we let him marry just 4 damsels and I'm sure in millions of years to come, the guy will think it’s sufficient to marry just 1. And then the girls will be saying, Hey!! Why can't we do that too? I want him, him, him and him too!! Uuuweeekk!! Then 'that someone’ answered, Now girls, girls. Let me ask you something. Will you be capable of taking care 4 husbands? Will you be able to protect 4 husbands? And best of all, do you think 4 man can tolerate each other under one roof?

Hey, I know a girl can screw 3 guys simultaneously. I've seen that happened in porn videos but don't let your imagination run wild because that’s not the big idea. If you girls think it’s unfair, men are not the ones to be blame. Men are made totally differently from women. Men don't think like women and vice versa. So if you don't like how men already are, too bad for you girls that you have to go through menstruation, being the weaker one and have to go through PMS every month. Hey, at least you don't have the kind of rage and messed up ideas that men have. Be thankful for that. If you still hate men, then please build your own house, do your own hunting and farming coz as far as I know, women don't build civilization nor do they build houses. Well, not until now at least.

That’s 3 paragraphs of unfaithfulness, peeps. The subject can go on and on but as far as love is concerned, I did talked about it on the first few paragraphs and there’s not much to talk about love. It’s very subjective and argumentative. There can be a million definitions on love. To me, love is when you have that feeling that you know how the other person feels towards you.

You love me too.

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